Imagine: you are sitting in the company of new acquaintances, colleagues, or even the parents of your half. Everyone is silent because they don’t know how to start a conversation. The silence becomes unbearable, and you think you can hear the ticking of a clock. This situation can be changed by asking the right questions.Question 1. How do you know X?
Option. How did you get to this party?
A simple question helps to establish what you have in common with the interlocutor. This is the easiest way to connect and find a topic to discuss.
In the worst case, you can always be amazed at how different roads you came to the same party. And this is a reason to ask new and new questions.
Question 2. What exactly do you mean?
Option. Never heard of this! How it works?
Actually, we don’t really like asking and clarifying. Because then we look stupid and uneducated. It seems that they have overlooked something that everyone else has known for a long time.
The tactic here, however, is to feel like an enthusiastic rookie. Then your questions will be pleasant for the interlocutor. In addition, you will ask about what everyone around you is interested in knowing, and this will make the conversation even more enjoyable.
Question 3. Why did you decide to do this?
Option. How did you get into this industry?
People love to talk about themselves. Such a question provokes the interlocutor into a story, from which you can isolate individual details, so that you can later use them to develop the conversation. You might find out that you studied at the same university or worked in the same industry. And you can continue an interesting conversation for both of you.